So a lot of crap has happened in the last couple of weeks as I have mentioned before it has all made me thankful for Nick... even more than I already was. But now I am going to touch on a topic that most people would never dare touch - but with my backgroud in social work I have a heart that breaks everytime I hear this story...
Typical 2 year olds know what is going on around them they know that their parents are not happy... with that said it breaks my heart when children tell me they do not want to go home because daddy and mommy fight all the time. I cant stress enough how important it is to not fight around your children...
Im not saying this is easy... it is hard I know firsthand... I can be irritating and at the same time my husband can be annoying ( shocking I know right?!) But we always talk quietly or wait till nap time to talk... if it is going to turn into a arguing match we usually just cool off first... Now I know that is not possible for everyone to do - but please make sure you both as it is your responsibility as parents to take care of your children that you make sure they are okay afterwards and if they want to talk to you about what happened then talk... dont tell them it is not their buisiness they are a part of your family and deserve the right to know and try and understand what is happening with mommy and daddy...
Just this last week Taylor came up to me and told me "i am not happy..." Shocked I had to control my own emotions and ask her why... all she could tell me was daddy and when I asked if it was that we had to move she says yes... With that being said that opened a door for me to talk to my daughter about her feelings and let her know that she doesnt always have to be happy - I think all to often we forget that our children have feelings...
So i leave you with this - listen to your children...
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